Sorry!

You know what’s worse than constantly hearing “I’m sorry.” from everyone after someone close to you dies? Constantly hearing “I’m sorry.” after people hear that your parents are divorced.

What’s the idea behind that really? Would you rather my parents stayed together in a loveless marriage?

“I’m sorry, it must’ve been hard on you.”

You mean harder that if my parents stayed together in a loveless marriage?

What’s the idea here? Are you saying it because the fact that divorce even exists is shattering the innate idea of a true love in your mind? Because if that is so, I’ve got news for you. True love? A myth. A legend. A LIE! And you know what? I’m sorry you believe it. I’m sorry you were brought up in a society that brainwashes people from a young age into thinking that they have to spend their lives with someone. In a society that is obsessed with finding love so much, nobody has time to love themselves. The time has come to stop it.

You see it in every book, in every film, that’s what makes it so dangerous. The idea of perfect love. Even the strong independent women who don’t need men find themselves charmed by the one in the end.

And if you try to think for yourself and stay single because you are so bloody happy on your own, you know what happens? Other people will look at you with a hint of sadness and assure you that it’s ok, you just haven’t met the right person yet. You haven’t met the one. But you will, you can’t give up hope. What hope? I don’t want to meet anyone!

“Oh, I was like you and then I met the right person and I knew immediately! You’ll see.”

Good for you. I wish you all the best. But I am not like you. I don’t secretly dream about a wedding and five children I’m going to have with my prince charming. This is not a pretence. I really honestly believe that humans were not meant to spend their entire lives with just one significant other. And the statistics are behind me on this.

Don’t tell me you’re sorry about my parents divorce. Tell me you’re sorry they got married. Tell me you’re sorry I’m a product of that marriage. Tell me you’re sorry it took them twelve years of marriage to realize they’re too different and can’t make it work. But never ever be sorry about the fact that they divorced.

— Some of this writing was inspired by Daniel Sloss and his Live shows on Netflix. Please, go watch his shows.